You wouldn't think that respecting yourself would be that hard. For some it's not and for others it's a constant battle. Lately, I've seen a lot of girls via social media displaying some questionable actions. Here's my advice for those certain individuals :) P.S. please take this with a bit of sarcasm. My aim is not to offend anyone just maybe bring some insight to the situations.
1. If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you.
Men are easy creatures to figure out. They are creatures of habit. So if he cheats on his "significant other" with you, there is a very good chance he'll cheat on you with someone else. His "habit" is cheating and trying to find the next best thing because he is lacking something in his own life. It has nothing to do with the person before you or the woman before her, it's him. He is missing something in life and having sex with some new pretty girl is how he's dealing with it. I know people can change, but seriously be very weary of him. Respect yourself enough to break his cycle and get out before you become just another girl to him. Don't fool yourself in thinking you can change him, you can't. You should never go into a relationship where you feel you need to change each other. If you're okay with him cheating previously and you wouldn't change it, then good on ya and good luck :)
2. Why blend in, when you were born to stand out?
I see soooo many girls who are constantly changing themselves for friends, boyfriends, family, etc. I get that change is inevitable. We all have to change or we would never learn what we like and don't like. But when you're changing your ways because you feel like you have to to "fit in" then it's time to stop. Stop trying to be like these people that won't accept you if you are different. I promise you that once you stay true to who you are, you will be the absolute happiest in life you've ever been. If they truly like you, they'll accept your differences and respect you for staying true to yourself.
3. It's all about respect.
I am amazed at the lack of respect I see young women show themselves these days. Most of all, I'm amazed at the lack of discipline and respect that parents are showing their own daughters. Parents: respect your daughters enough to make them change their clothes if they are leaving the house looking like a two dollar whore when they are 14. Respect them enough to teach them that being smart, nice, and caring is far more important than getting attention from boys by being mean, acting dumb, and dressing completely inappropriate. Teach your kids to respect their teachers and leaders. These people will have a high influence on their lives if they let them.
I know I may not have any experience in most of these areas, however sometimes the best advice comes from someone with an unbiased opinion. I have been on this quest of self acceptance for a while now and it has taught me so much about myself that I can't wait to teach my daughters. I can't wait to show them that in a world full of hatred and disrespect that she can be strong and soft all at the same time. Strong enough to stand up for herself and what is right, but soft enough to accept herself and others.
Hi my name is Whitney and I'm a mom to 2 adorable boys. Here you'll find our story of infertility, adoption, grief, and hope. I'm an open book so you'll never know what I'll post next!