Bullies will always be bullies!
Tonight I was watching Dancing With the Stars and there was a dance about bullying and those dealing with insecurities. It was a beautiful and emotional dance. I started crying and realized how close it hit home to me.
During high school I was never the skinny girl. I have always been thicker or "big boned" as some like to call it. I was always popular and well liked but no one ever knew how insecure I really was. I never felt as confident as I made it seem.
I remember my junior or senior year, someone put a note on my front door basically saying that they thought it was gross that when I sat down my shirt would rise up in the back and they could see my back fat and some other really mean things. I remember crying every single night about it. Some other boys were really mean to me too. And the funny thing is that all the boys that wrote and said these things were always my friends. We hung out all the time. If only I had the confidence I do now. I would have told them exactly what I thought, but instead I just smiled and pretended it was all okay.
If I could stand up and defend every single person who is being bullied I would. I would tell them that it gets better. I would tell them that once you graduate and grow up that this will only be a stepping stone to who you will become. The bullies will hopefully grow up and be decent human beings and if they don't they'll continue being miserable people who no one likes!
I believe that everything in my life has influenced me to become who I am today. I think that the bullying led me to marry young and be in an unhealthy relationship. The unhealthy relationship ultimately made me believe in myself enough to leave him, which made me motivated to lose weight. Losing weight made me confident enough to start dating and dating led me to Nate. Meeting Nate made me the happiest person I have ever been. Take that bullies!
10/8/2014 01:24:29 pm
I didn't know this about you! Bullies suck...but your right it is a stepping stone. I also wish nore kids knew that EVERYONE goes through it to sone extent and that we are NEVER alone!
10/8/2014 01:32:16 pm
I never talked about it to anyone. I think mom and dad were the only ones who knew. I know I wish more young people knew that too. It's so sad that people feel the need to bully others.
10/11/2014 02:02:54 am
Sorry this happened to you. Kids can be so mean! So glad you have turned your life around. You look great!
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Hi my name is Whitney and I'm a mom to 2 adorable boys and the wife to a sports loving, handsome man. I'm outnumbered but wouldn't have it any other way. I'm navigating motherhood one fart joke at a time. Welcome to my crazy life!